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It depends there are times when you have chemistry and an attraction and it doesn't work well as just friends. To many feelings to control. But there are friends that you feel nothing for and just make good company like one of your girlfriends. I have experienced both sides of this and loving a friend is torture
Ah, the perpetual question, also featured in "When Harry Met Sally." I have been friends with more men than I have women, so I am more comfortable with them. However, when the balance of feelings start to drift into more than just friends, it can become uncomfortable, if the other person is not feeling equally as fond. I find the sexual tension of a male/female friendship to be stimulating, even if it is always platonic. Now, when the friendship is sexual, if both parties are not in total agreement that they are just friends, the sex could add complications. Best to monitor the feelings of both and be open and honest with each other to avoid ruining the friendship.
Absolutely! I had male friends when I was younger and I still do today. In fact, my coauthor is a male. He and I are both happily married. It might be easier at this point, since I have been married for over fifteen years, but I definitely think it's possible.
If the two people are single, it can be messy. If they are married, Yes, as long as it remains "friends" and it is not the least bit sexual. Then jealousy might sink in along with other feelings, complications can arise.
As long as they can handle the other person possibly developing feelings for the them, I think it is inevitable that one of them may think "I wonder if it can be more". Now whether that person acts on it, I do think the feelings will be there. Marriage would deter someone from "acting" on those feelings, but I still think there would be underlying desires/feelings there. But maybe that's just my personal experiences????
It seems the consensus is that feelings always develop on one side or the other. Do you guys really think that's true. People can't just be friends with the opposite sex without someone wanting more... actions aside.
I guess it could possible? I just know from my experiences, when I was single I had many male friends and those friendships always ended up w/ the conversation of wanting more or to at least to try and see how things would go. Even after I was married, I had to end the friendships due to underlying feelings. I guess if there is no attraction. Kudos to those who can have a friendship like that :)
Of course you can be friends with the opposite sex. I've had a male friend for years!! Although he's very handsome, I'm not sexually attracted to him. I think that makes a difference.
Thank you... finally someone who agrees with me! LOL
Just Don't Know about this One...I Guess if the 2 were Really Strong a Friendship Could Possibly Work...But Most of the Time I would say Don't Do It!!! Especially don't put yourself in situations where you are alone together!!!
Absolutely! I grew up with 4 older brothers and I find it much easier to get along with more men than women. I am very straightforward and don't like to play games. A lot of women can't handle that and don't like it. My best girlfriends have similar personalities. I have one very dear male friend. I love him to death and go to him when I need no holds barred advice. I know he has mine and my husbands best interest at heart. I could NEVER be in a relationship with him. He is a good man but has some quirks I just couldn't live with! LOL
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Yup. Got lots of them. Always have had. And now it's especially easy for me because I live in Asia and I don't find Asian men physically attractive.And that's a whole other debate!
YES! I have many male friends in my life and I'm happily married. I have a few friends from high school that I still talk to and new friends. Its funny because my husband has me be flirty with his friends from work and there's NO relationships with them! Its very possible. People end up pushing sex to the front of everything, and that's kind of sad.
Yes I think its possible. Ive been friends with two guys since school one since 8th grade and the other high school. The one from high school was actually best friends with my boyfriend at the time and thats how I met him. Then even after my boyfriend and I broke up we stayed friends, and there has never been anything sexual between us. Now he is really good friends with my husband. Hes good looking but just not my type, that and I always enjoyed watching him chase after girls when we would go out, LOL!