For those of you new to the blog and/or "kkX"...first of all, WELCOME!
We started doing questions a couple of months ago and it seems to be a very popular part of the page. I wonder though if we might get more interaction here on the blog, without the judgmental eyes of Facebook and the fact that others we know might somehow see our comments and/or 'likes'.
If YOU have a question you would like to submit to "kkX", PLEASE MESSAGE ME ONLY on the page and don't forget to let me know if you would like to remain anonymous. As for the questions, anything goes. You can take a look on the page for past question posts if you like, but truly...feel comfortable asking anything at all. Many have gotten helpful answers, friendly advice and honest opinions.
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That being said, let's start with our first question on the blog ~
Ok. A question for you. I need to be anonymous. Ok. My husband has been gone for close to 10 years now and won't be home until next year (yes, he's in prison please don't judge). As hard as it is for people to believe I have been 100% faithful to him. My problem is that in his absence I've used toys and I think I'm too numb for normal sex. I know I have a year left to try and fix it but I'm not sure how!! Do I just stop using B.O.B. cold turkey? I've been living on that and erotica to take care things but I don't want to rely on them when he's here. I want our normal relationship back. So, advice on un-numbing myself without getting frustrated?
Hmm...not sure why the multi-colored post here, so...my apologies.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't try "un-numbing" yourself, but just try to minimize your activity or try using a different type of toy and fantasize about your husband to sort of make it a bit more normal. Use his cologne in the room etc. I can not imagine what you are going through, but I wish you luck. You are a strong woman.
ReplyDeleteWean off the toys- electronics & human touch are so different. I had been celibate by choice for 23 months while i did some deep internal spiritual work on my self. I busied my libido with tons of fantasy and toys. Last month i was ready for real flesh but my flesh wasnt ready for his. I am very orgasmic and i had a difficult time with orgasm with a real person. I was really disappointed ... and frustrated. My advice is to put the electronic toys awayt and just your own hands.
ReplyDeletewhy cant we have it all? Toys and Men? My man actually took me to a toy store and showed me which toy was suppose to b the best and then bought it for me!!! Good Times...Lol :D Oh and if u like Men would really like it if u watched porn together...gets u both really Hottt!!! I say if he is okay with it dont give up anything...Do it all with him and yall can have a Great Time getting used to one another again!!!
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is do what is good for you and your man. I give you credit for waiting for him for 10 years. I hope it is all you have waited for. As far as the toys, enjoy them with him. If he loves you, he will enjoy the new experiences. Stay calm and experiment!
ReplyDeleteI don't answer questions on Facebook, as too many family members "stalk" profiles. At least on the blog I can remain Annonymous.
ReplyDeleteI can't say any more than everyone else already has for this question. I agree with all of the responses, both on the blog and Facebook. Tough choice really. You know your man and yourself-no one else can thoroughly answer this question-only give their own personal advice/suggestions.
No, I wouldn't wean off the toys. You've discovered how to please yourself which can be a bonus for you both. Now, you can show your man what you like and let him use the toys on you too.
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