Tuesday, February 5, 2013

It's QUESTION TIME!!

Please keep anonymous. Thanks. So my question is regarding anal. I am new to this side of sex. But it seems to exhaust me. Truly i have no energy after we do this. Is that something that changes after your body gets used to it or what? Thanks for any insight.
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  1. AnonymousFebruary 5, 2013 at 11:43 PM

    I wanna try anal but i am scared and how do i go about doing this??? In the middle of sex do i say "Do me in the backdoor!?" I dont think so....., so what do i do??? Help!

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  2. AnonymousFebruary 6, 2013 at 5:30 AM

    It could be a dirty plea like "I wanna feel ur hard rock in my ass" or if u think both of u should talk about it openly, tell him u wanna "try something new tonight". But either way, express in depth about LUBE LUBE LUBE!! And definitely take it slow & relax!!!! And most of all communicate! All prerequisites for me anyways!

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 6, 2013 at 9:23 AM

    I loved it. It was most exciting and it can be a little rough in the beginning, so lube up. But once you pass the entrance, there is no turning back. do it slow, dont rush in the beginning. You will love it. such a different experience, but you both have to be on board for it. good luck and enjoy experimenting. have fun and dont think so hard, just feel and go with it.

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  4. AnonymousFebruary 6, 2013 at 10:47 AM

    I didn't exactly hate it, but it's nothing I'd want to do again anytime soon. It's weird because I loved my boyfriend fingering me so I thought "why not step it up a notch." The feeling is quite different, but different doesn't mean GOOD.......at least not to me.

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  5. AnonymousFebruary 6, 2013 at 3:30 PM

    You're exhausted because you're not relaxed during anal sex. If you're tense or stressed out about having anal sex then you're probably having an adrenaline rush.

    My question to you is are you having anal sex because you want to or is it to please him?

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  6. AnonymousFebruary 6, 2013 at 10:14 PM

    Im the one with the question. I feel as im relaxed. It is something that i think i am still trying to figure out, still new to anal. The best position to do this in.. etc. But once we are done i am completely spent. But the adrenaline does make sense because i get a rush just befor something happens on that area.

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    1. AnonymousFebruary 12, 2013 at 9:13 AM

      sounds like you may just be overthinking it. It's a performance anxiety that you seem to be having. If it's something you really want to get into then you need to relax, shut your head off and stop thinking about it and enjoy it. There's a time and place for everything, if you want to talk and figure out what your partner wants to try, discuss with him different things about anal sex it may help relax you more. The less you think about it the less emotionally exhausted you will be in the end

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  7. AnonymousFebruary 6, 2013 at 10:31 PM

    Thanks, I just wanted to be sure YOU were okay with the idea of having anal sex. Sometimes, the anticipation of it all happening can cause an adrenaline rush. Most women start with toys and once they're comfortable with the probing they go for the real deal.

    Your positions, just like vaginal sex, depend on what's comfortable for you (ie: doggy, knees to chest, lying on your stomach, side by side, cowgirl, etc.). Communicate with your partner, relax, lube up, take it slow and enjoy the ride!

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  8. AnonymousFebruary 8, 2013 at 10:02 AM

    I found that if you "push out" as your partner is "pushing in" it's not painful. It's very exciting and stimulating.

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    1. AnonymousFebruary 23, 2013 at 11:01 AM

      I agree. I read the Tiffany Reisz series and like yourself pushing out as he goes in does make it less painful. But for me... hes just too big and impatient

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  9. AnonymousFebruary 11, 2013 at 3:32 PM

    I take control, and my husband lets me. If you take control and go as slow or as fast it also helps.

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  10. AnonymousFebruary 21, 2013 at 9:02 PM

    Try spooning, lube up, for sure take little steps it will Get easy.

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